It’s a good day when you can add to your vinyl (and digital) music collection. It’s just not a good day for your bank account. #recordstoreday #rsd2014

It’s a good day when you can add to your vinyl (and digital) music collection. It’s just not a good day for your bank account. #recordstoreday #rsd2014

You know you’ve watched too many NCIS: Los Angeles episodes when in the first shot of the Vice President in Iron Man 3, you automatically think “IT’S AGENT OWEN GRANGER”…every time you watch Iron Man 3.

The problem is that white people see racism as conscious hate, when racism is bigger than that. Racism is a complex system of social and political levers and pulleys set up generations ago to continue working on the behalf of whites at other people’s expense, whether whites know/like it or not. Racism is an insidious cultural disease. It is so insidious that it doesn’t care if you are a white person who likes black people; it’s still going to find a way to infect how you deal with people who don’t look like you. Yes, racism looks like hate, but hate is just one manifestation. Privilege is another. Access is another. Ignorance is another. Apathy is another. And so on. So while I agree with people who say no one is born racist, it remains a powerful system that we’re immediately born into. It’s like being born into air: you take it in as soon as you breathe. It’s not a cold that you can get over. There is no anti-racist certification class. It’s a set of socioeconomic traps and cultural values that are fired up every time we interact with the world. It is a thing you have to keep scooping out of the boat of your life to keep from drowning in it. I know it’s hard work, but it’s the price you pay for owning everything.

If a Disney princess had night terrors, the story of Sansa Stark might be what woke her up screaming. Often overlooked in favor of her killer kid sister, the elder Stark sibling has had all her illusions about the world, and her safety in it, shattered. But her quiet, innate political shrewdness and emotional strength have enabled her to survive in a royal court that likely would have cost every other member of her family their heads. She’s the show’s best-kept secret.

Rollingstone about Sansa Stark in their list of top 40 game of thrones characters. Sansa is number 4. x (via tomlincum)

(via ball-of-wool)

Do not conform to the society’s idea of beautiful or handsome. If you are comfortable in what you’re wearing and you do not care what other people would think, comment or label you with, then I am with you. But I want you to know what is out there, what the world is like and how people behave, when people like you wear something like this [her short skirt or top] outside. People do not like seeing others break their predefined rules of normal, beautiful self and henceforth are harsh at people like you who do not conform. You make get looks, whistles, harsh words and dirty comments. However, if you’re still comfortable, then I am with you and you can step right out the door knowing your dad loves you for who you are. Stand up for yourself, and you shall be happy in life sweetheart.

Conversation with my future daughter when she grows up. (via khudgarz-parinda)

These days, before we talk about misogyny, women are increasingly being asked to modify our language so we don’t hurt men’s feelings. Don’t say, “Men oppress women” – that’s sexism, as bad as any sexism women ever have to handle, possibly worse. Instead, say, “Some men oppress women.” Whatever you do, don’t generalise. That’s something men do. Not all men – just some men.

This type of semantic squabbling is a very effective way of getting women to shut up. After all, most of us grew up learning that being a good girl was all about putting other people’s feelings ahead of our own. We aren’t supposed to say what we think if there’s a chance it might upset somebody else or, worse, make them angry. So we stifle our speech with apologies, caveats and soothing sounds. We reassure our friends and loved ones that “you’re not one of those men who hate women”.

What we don’t say is: of course not all men hate women. But culture hates women, so men who grow up in a sexist culture have a tendency to do and say sexist things, often without meaning to. We aren’t judging you for who you are but that doesn’t mean we’re not asking you to change your behaviour. What you feel about women in your heart is of less immediate importance than how you treat them on a daily basis.

You can be the gentlest, sweetest man in the world yet still benefit from sexism. That’s how oppression works.

An & Ria’s #first flight

These two are absolutely adorable.